Jealousy = Your Wake-up Call
"Tanya, when you see a ballerina, do you get jealous?"
That was how my mentor and coach approached this very important little lesson with me. And I told her: “No. Ballerinas inspire me. When I see all the work they've done, I'm impressed.” I congratulate them in my mind. In fact, I couldn't be happier for them!
She replied with: "That's because you know at this point in your life, you're probably never gonna be a ballerina. Nor do you wanna be! You have nothing to be jealous of. Now, how about when you see someone speak on stage?"
Then, I think, "Cool! I'm happy for them, but I wanna do that so bad!" There is a little twisting in my gut of jealousy and it stings. I didn’t like feeling jealous and it frustrated me as it seemed like a purely negative emotion. You look at someone and think, “Why not me?”
Jealousy doesn't have to be a negative emotion! Jealousy is actually a wake-up call.
The healthy reaction I learned is to take a step back and assess that stinging feeling. Realize that jealousy is just your subconscious mind reminding you that there is room for growth inside yourself! If you knew you were reaching your highest potential and at least working toward all you were capable of achieving, you wouldn't feel the pain of jealousy.
This is your subconscious mind giving you a wake-up call: “You are capable of achieving that experience you're jealous of. I’m letting you know that not only is it possible, it's PROBABLE.”
So what now? Now, it's your responsibility to consciously take action, to play all out, to achieve what your subconscious mind is telling you is possible. You have to make it happen yourself. Let jealousy give you that much needed wake-up call. Treat it like a catalyst for you to believe in yourself more.
Then, you can move forward with intent. Then, you can be happy for whoever it is you’re jealous of and congratulate them. Then, you play all out!